Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Word to the wise...

Love your doc.  Seriously Love them before you start this.  Not only must you love your doc, but you must love his staff!  It is very important.  Very!  I was told the same thing, and I listened, but because of feeling like "I had no other option but THIS RE" I kept seeing the current RE I'm with now.  Don't get me wrong, they aren't awful, they're nice, doing everything fine, nothing really bad to report about them, its just that I don't feel like they fit "my" needs in communication or understanding.  Our situation is a bit unique where my husband can't be there all the time at every appointment.  I expressed that in the very beginning that it is very important to us that we chose an IVF doc and office that completely understands that and of course they were all, "oh yes, why of course, we see this all the time" kind of attitude, but deep down, my gut feeling I still didn't "love" them, I don't know what it was.  I just pushed through the feeling and kept saying, well maybe next time I go in I'll like them more....well maybe the next visit...and so on.  To where now it is too late to switch, and I do believe the end goal (getting pregnant) will be the same with any other doc, but I still wish I loved my doc and their staff more...it would help...A LOT.  It's already emotional enough without feeling judged by their staff.  :(  Just had to vent and give a word of advice that I should have took into more consideration to begin with. 

8 comments:

  1. :( I was really hoping they would get better as time went on :( I'm sorry. BUT, the IVF process is a scientific one, you don't have to like them to get pregnant! Its nice if they are cheering you on and happy for you, though. I'll cheer you on and be happy for you!!! Stay positive and think pregnant!

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  2. Thanks sweetie. I know, I was hoping so too, BUT you're totally RIGHT! I am still gonna get pregnant!!!!!!!! lol *praying that's Gods plan too!* Thanks for being positive and cheering me on too!! haha, I need it! Doesn't seem like I'm getting much help from my RE office!

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  3. We were talking about you guys over dinner a couple nights ago, hoping IVF works beautifully for you!! There are so many of us lifting you up in prayer!

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  4. THANK YOU!!! :) So sweet. I really need all the "sticky" vibes I can get! Miss you guys!!!

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  5. We are lifting you up my precious friend...thank you so much for always being so transparent...you have no idea how this is going to bless someone!!!

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  6. La Shai, thank you!!! That means so much! Thank you for praying for us too, its the best thing anyone can do for us! Thank you!!

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  7. Youtube follower :) Damaris
    I get what u mean. I have heard both side of the doctor that will be soon mine ;); some stuff I have read from him is that he is not nice or communicative and that he does explain like people will like to. I did talk to him in the initial consultation and he was nice, he did ask us at first what is it that you know about your options and IVF as one. I did my search and still am :).
    They already know I will be in the process of IVF by myself cause my husband will be in Irak deploy; so I choose the month I will go and start the IVF journey!!! Some of the staff are like why you have to wait until that particular month and I explain simple I want him to be in my delivery day LOL>we have to be positive all the way.
    So when u go to tha office u are the one whose going to have all the positive and optimistic moodsss, if u have any question make them, remember u are paying for a service (expensive one by the way).

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  8. Damaris, Good luck on your IVF Journey!!! My husband is in the AF and I know how scary it is when they're deployed and I can only imagine how much more emotional the IVF journey would be without him there, us military wives are STRONG!!! Keep staying positive, and strong, you'll get through it! You're smart about waiting until a certain month so you know he'll be there for delivery!

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